I heard that phrase for years and for the life of me I could not understand what it meant.
I have a pretty good comprehension of what doing is, my whole life is doing.
But when it comes to being?
What does being mean?
How do you do being?
It wasn’t until years later that I caught a glimpse of the difference.
Let’s explore together what is the difference between being and doing.
Our Whole Lives We Are Doing
“I think in the Western world we have gotten overly identified with doing, and we’ve kind of forgotten about the art of being. And we don’t see value in it; we think that if you’re not doing something all of the time, being very active and producing something, then you’re sort of wasting your time.” — Shakti Gawain
At a first glance, you are probably thinking that your life is a mixture of doing and being.
But if we pay closer attention, we are not being at all, we are always doing.
So let’s examine your lives to see if that is true.
Our current values, as dictated by society, are based on being productive. Our identities and personal sense of values are tied to how productive we are.
No wonder, we don’t even know what being means. It’s not valued therefore ignored and not pursued at all.
The closes to being is when we are relaxing or having fun.
But if we look closer, even in those moments we are doing and not being.
We are doing relaxing, we are doing having fun.
It’s more pleasurable but it’s still doing not being.
What Is Being?
“People don’t realize that now is all there ever is; there is no past or future except as memory or anticipation in your mind.” – Eckhart Tolle
This is not easy to explain.
One might argue, that being can only be experienced.
Nature knows how to be.
You can observe a flower or learn from trees how to be.
I have been searching for the meaning of being versus doing for years.
I think I finally got a glimpse of that.
You will probably first experience being during meditation but gradually you can train your mind to being even as you are doing things.
It’s a shift in perfective.
At first, you would have to realize that you are more than just a body. You are more than what your five senses allow you to experience in a physical world. You are a divine light energy wrapped in a flesh for a little while.
Once you at least in a theory accept that, you can start training your mind to believe that.
Your mind is the boss.
What ever your mind believes, it will become your physical life experience.
So if through repetition and focus you are able to change your believes as to who you really are; a pure light energy, you will start seeing evidence of that in your everyday experiences.
And you will start experiencing being instead of doing.
How To Start Practicing Being?
“All you really need to do is accept this moment fully. You are then at ease in the here and now and at ease with yourself.” Eckhat Tolle
There are certain steps that you can take to start practicing being:
Step 1 – Examine your beliefs
It all starts with examining your current life and the beliefs which caused the current life that you have.
I guess, first, you have to believe that thoughts change into things.
Once you have that belief firmly established, you can work on changing other beliefs.
For me this was a journey that took years. As gradually my life started making less and less sense to me, I started searching for answers.
My mind was open enough to accept radical changes in my ways of thinking and living.
As I become more unhappy, miserable, unsatisfied with my life for now apparent reason, I knew deep down that there must be another way.
Teaching guides appeared along the way to assist me with that.
Abraham Hick was the first major influence in my life where I started seeing that there is more to my life than meets the eyes.
Eckhart Tolle, A Course In Miracles, and Mooji, became my teaching guides shortly after as my understanding of the real world deepened.
Once I knew and believed that my beliefs were outdated, I was ready to start the work on changing them.
Step 2 – develop new beliefs
The new beliefs that I wanted to implant in my mind were very drastic compared to my old beliefs.
The cost of the knew beliefs was the world that I saw and built. I, of course was very attached to it, as I still believed that my identity was based on it. and the way I saw it, it was. Giving up the old beliefs meant giving up my world and myself as I knew it.
The knew believes that I was diligently working on implementing were:
- We are all one mind, appearing to be separated by our individual bodies
- the world I see is an illusion, a dream of separation that I am dreaming
- the way I see the world and others is not how the world and others are, it’s a mirror of what I believe I am
- I am responsible to everything that is happening in my life
- there is only love, everything else that is not love is an illusion and it does not exist
- forgiveness is the only way to salvation
- I can only listen to one guide, the ego or the spirit and every minute, every second of my life I am choosing which guide I’m listening to
- my ego is just a belief system that believes in separation
Step 3 – maintain focus on your new beliefs
This is where the next phase of the journey begins. You have to maintain constant focus on the knew beliefs. You have to stay very vigilant in your new way of seeing and do not allow yourself to indulge in going back to the old thought system.
Step 4 – use resources to help you
To help me stay focused, I used many resources.
A Course In Miracles was crucial in my journey. I read the text over and over again and I diligently completed the daily lessons that helped me to focus on specific idea per day.
I also listened to guided meditation from Mooji as well as many videos from Eckhart Tolle.
Ste 5 – quiet time and meditation
Giving quiet time for contemplation meditation is a must. Taking the time to disengage from the physical world and gradually start exploring the inner world more and more are crucial for steady progress in the right direction.
Step 6 – stay vigilant so you don’t slip back
You have to train your mind to stay vigilant. The old world and your old beliefs will call out to you and will try to get you to go back to the old way, you will have to use strength to maintain the new knowledge and understanding and not slip back.
If you follow the above steps diligently, a new world will emerge. Once you are stable enough in the new world, you will never want to go back to the old, tired, miserable, painful world.
The New World That Emerges
“Dying to your own attachments is a beautiful death. Because this death release you into real life. You have to die as a seed to live as a tree.” ― Mooji
The knew world that will emerge will be the true world. As you start to awake from your dream of separation, you will be in the world but not of the world.
Your only function here will be to help others reach the new world.
You will become a teacher and a guide to help others awake from the nightmarish dream.
You will show others how to leave all the pain and misery behind and enter the true perception of the world.
What Is The Difference Between Being And Doing?
“What you think you are is a belief to be undone.” – ACIM
The way I understand it, doing is being asleep and living in a dream. Not realizing this is a dream we frantically spend every moment trying to achieve something thinking that it will take us closer to happiness and joy.
Being on the other hand is being aware that we are more than our bodies and spending time feeling it.
Going beyond your senses and your thoughts.
It takes practice to reach that place but there is a place in you that is beyond your body, your senses and your thoughts.
That is being.
It’s disconnecting from the world as you know it and entering a different dimension of existence,
You have to leave who you think you are and what you think this world is behind.
You have to leave every belief, every idea, every perception, hope, goal, preferences behind.
But don’t worry, they will not disappear, they will be there waiting for you when you come back.
But to enter being, you need to learn to leave them behind.
Only then, will you be able to get a glimpse of what being truly is.
I hope you have enjoyed this article. I would love to hear your opinions and suggestions on the topic.
How are you practicing being?
“Throw everything away, forget about it all! You are learning too much, remembering too much, trying too hard . . . relax a little bit, give life a chance to flow its own way, unassisted by your mind and effort. Stop directing the river’s flow.” ― Mooji
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